It’s no surprise that strong
sexual communication
skills can lead to a more
satisfying time in the sack.
But which words you
choose may have more of
an impact than you think,
according to a new study
in the Journal of Sex
Research.
Choose your words wisely.
She’s judging you.
Researchers asked 293 married people to fill out
questionnaires about their sex lives, how often
they talked about sex with their partner, and
how satisfied they were with their marriage.
People then looked at a list of 44 sex terms—split
into clinical terms like “labia,” erotic words like
“climax,” slang like “give head,” and dirty stuff
like “pussy”—and rated how frequently they
used them when talking about sex.
Surprisingly, the more couples used sex slang,
the more satisfied they felt with their relationship
and sexual communication.
If your pillow talk has been a bit vanilla lately,
we’ll teach you how to take it to the next level.
But beware: There are certain dirty words you
should never say to a naked woman.
The slang: Ass
Too intense? Say this: Backside or butt. Honestly,
“ass” shouldn’t offend many women, but if it
seems a bit too hardcore for the moment, opt for
one of these tamer alternatives.
Not that: Derriere, fanny, or tooshie. Note to
men everywhere: Unless you’re talking about
your 3-month-old daughter, avoid those words at
all costs when you’re describing a woman’s
assets.
The slang: Balls
Too intense? Say this: Balls. Seriously, man
up. If you’re old enough for a woman to see your
goods, you’re old enough to call ‘em what they
are.
Not that: Testicles. What are you, a doctor? For
everyone’s sake, steer clear of clinical terms
when you’re getting it on.
The slang: Eat out
Too intense? Say this: I want to taste you.
Research has shown that women who are more
comfortable with their genitals are more game
for oral sex—andthey orgasm more, says Debby
Herbenick, Ph.D., sex researcher at Indiana
University and author of Sex Made Easy. So if you
frame the act in a positive light that shows her
you enjoy it, she’s more likely to let her guard
down.
Not that: Cunnilingus. Rule of thumb: If you
can’t spell the word off the top of your head, it
won’t sound sexy in bed.
The slang: F*ck
Too intense? Say this: I want to bury myself
inside you. Your favorite four-letter word can
work if the mood is right, but if you’re not on the
same page, asking her to “f*ck” out of the blue
may come off as cheap and emotionless.
Not that: Smush. Even the cast of Jersey
Shore couldn’t get that term to stick, so don’t
even attempt it.
The slang: Tits
Too intense? Say this: Breasts. If “tits” is a
little too porno for your style, “breasts” is a more
tasteful term to incorporate into your foreplay.
Not that: Hooters, knockers, funbags, jugs,
cans, or the twins. Call them whatever you want
around your guy friends. But if you compliment
her giant “jugs” when she first whips ‘em out . . .
prepare to get slapped. (
The slang: Dick
Too intense? Say this: Penis. In the new
study, “penis” was the seventh most popular
word out of 44 terms, so you’re in good
company.
Not that: Magic stick. Even if you’re 50 Cent, no
woman would ever take you seriously if you
asked her to roll a condom down your “Magic
Stick.” Keep it classy, man. (That’s not the only
bone we have to pick with ‘Fiddy.
The slang: Pussy
Too intense? Say this: Vagina. As with “penis,”
calling it by its proper name is still plenty sexy.
When it came to popularity, “vagina” ranked
17th out of 44 in the Journal of Sex
Research study.
Not that: Box, hole, twat, the C-word . . . this
list is endless. All it takes is the wrong dirty word
to jeopardize your shot at future sex sessions, so
stick with “vagina” if she prefers you to be PC, or
“pussy” if she’s feeling freaky and you know
she’s cool with it. Anything else, and you’re
walking on thin ice.
The slang: Cum
Too intense? Say this: Bust or get
off. Whispering in her ear that you’d like to
“ejaculate inside her” may not sound as hot on
the receiving end. These two are neutral enough
to relay the message.
Not that: Skeet, splooge, and spurt. Rule of
thumb: If you’ve hit puberty, this trio should be
long gone from your vocabulary.
Source: www.menshealth.com
sexual communication
skills can lead to a more
satisfying time in the sack.
But which words you
choose may have more of
an impact than you think,
according to a new study
in the Journal of Sex
Research.
Choose your words wisely.
She’s judging you.
Researchers asked 293 married people to fill out
questionnaires about their sex lives, how often
they talked about sex with their partner, and
how satisfied they were with their marriage.
People then looked at a list of 44 sex terms—split
into clinical terms like “labia,” erotic words like
“climax,” slang like “give head,” and dirty stuff
like “pussy”—and rated how frequently they
used them when talking about sex.
Surprisingly, the more couples used sex slang,
the more satisfied they felt with their relationship
and sexual communication.
If your pillow talk has been a bit vanilla lately,
we’ll teach you how to take it to the next level.
But beware: There are certain dirty words you
should never say to a naked woman.
The slang: Ass
Too intense? Say this: Backside or butt. Honestly,
“ass” shouldn’t offend many women, but if it
seems a bit too hardcore for the moment, opt for
one of these tamer alternatives.
Not that: Derriere, fanny, or tooshie. Note to
men everywhere: Unless you’re talking about
your 3-month-old daughter, avoid those words at
all costs when you’re describing a woman’s
assets.
The slang: Balls
Too intense? Say this: Balls. Seriously, man
up. If you’re old enough for a woman to see your
goods, you’re old enough to call ‘em what they
are.
Not that: Testicles. What are you, a doctor? For
everyone’s sake, steer clear of clinical terms
when you’re getting it on.
The slang: Eat out
Too intense? Say this: I want to taste you.
Research has shown that women who are more
comfortable with their genitals are more game
for oral sex—andthey orgasm more, says Debby
Herbenick, Ph.D., sex researcher at Indiana
University and author of Sex Made Easy. So if you
frame the act in a positive light that shows her
you enjoy it, she’s more likely to let her guard
down.
Not that: Cunnilingus. Rule of thumb: If you
can’t spell the word off the top of your head, it
won’t sound sexy in bed.
The slang: F*ck
Too intense? Say this: I want to bury myself
inside you. Your favorite four-letter word can
work if the mood is right, but if you’re not on the
same page, asking her to “f*ck” out of the blue
may come off as cheap and emotionless.
Not that: Smush. Even the cast of Jersey
Shore couldn’t get that term to stick, so don’t
even attempt it.
The slang: Tits
Too intense? Say this: Breasts. If “tits” is a
little too porno for your style, “breasts” is a more
tasteful term to incorporate into your foreplay.
Not that: Hooters, knockers, funbags, jugs,
cans, or the twins. Call them whatever you want
around your guy friends. But if you compliment
her giant “jugs” when she first whips ‘em out . . .
prepare to get slapped. (
The slang: Dick
Too intense? Say this: Penis. In the new
study, “penis” was the seventh most popular
word out of 44 terms, so you’re in good
company.
Not that: Magic stick. Even if you’re 50 Cent, no
woman would ever take you seriously if you
asked her to roll a condom down your “Magic
Stick.” Keep it classy, man. (That’s not the only
bone we have to pick with ‘Fiddy.
The slang: Pussy
Too intense? Say this: Vagina. As with “penis,”
calling it by its proper name is still plenty sexy.
When it came to popularity, “vagina” ranked
17th out of 44 in the Journal of Sex
Research study.
Not that: Box, hole, twat, the C-word . . . this
list is endless. All it takes is the wrong dirty word
to jeopardize your shot at future sex sessions, so
stick with “vagina” if she prefers you to be PC, or
“pussy” if she’s feeling freaky and you know
she’s cool with it. Anything else, and you’re
walking on thin ice.
The slang: Cum
Too intense? Say this: Bust or get
off. Whispering in her ear that you’d like to
“ejaculate inside her” may not sound as hot on
the receiving end. These two are neutral enough
to relay the message.
Not that: Skeet, splooge, and spurt. Rule of
thumb: If you’ve hit puberty, this trio should be
long gone from your vocabulary.
Source: www.menshealth.com
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